A Powerful Marriage is like Money in the Bank

Today I want you to think of your marriage as though it was money.

You spend your money, earn your money, save and invest your money based on pre-set ideas and beliefs.

Perhaps you are well organized and specific about your money.

You plan.

Maybe you have a budget regarding how you spend your money.

What if you had a budget based around your marriage? Instead of dollars, however, your currency is attention, time, support, dreams lived and new dreams imagined.

In most of my marriage ceremonies I talk about marriage being like a box, or today a savings account. If you expect to take something out of it you first have to put something in. Like that bank account with actual money in it, when challenges come up you will be able to go to the marriage bank account.

When there is nothing in the account there is nothing to take you through tough times.

• There is no trustYou feel empty and unsupported and unable to give more than you are
• There is no emotional reserve to tap into
• You wait for the other to take the initiative before you do
• You have trouble thinking good or positive thoughts about the other, the marriage and sometimes even yourself
• You do stupid things to sabotage your relationship which is already in trouble
• You want to 'give up'

Taking each other for granted, being late when you say you will be home, not complimenting each other, not taking each other seriously, drains your marital savings account.

Here are some ways to put currency into your savings account:

• ListeningDoing things for each other when asked
• Doing things for each other even without being asked
• Anticipating when your partner will need your supportSending cards, writing notes, bringing flowers, etc., for no special reasonHolding hands, touching, hugging in a non-sexual way
• Being on timeComplimenting each other every day
• Saying "I love you' every day
• Asking every day: "Is there soemthing I can do for you today?"
• Praying or affirming for the well-being, happiness and success of the other
• Reading your wedding vows daily.
• Settling all arguments and problems before you go to sleep

These are just a few ideas. Get out a piece of paper and start to make a list of your own.

I can't keep from reminding you that writing your wedding vows with mindful attention can be one of the most important steps you ever take to create a phenomenal marriage. Because when you are able to create a vision or a dream that has substance in it, and then revisit that dream with your actions and intentions you are putting emotional, physical and spiritual cash into your marital bank account on a constant basis.

That is truly being rich!

Rev. Linda

Even if your wedding is over you can still benefit vastly by purchasing the wedding vow Ebook because it gives you the tools you need in order to craft a phenomenal relationship and marriage.

In fact, it's never too late to write your marriage vows.

www.WeddingVowsandCeremonies.com

by Rev. Linda